WAW - Worth sticking it out?

[BeingMe]

That would be the best scenario, however, one has to consider where your child/ren would be most comfortable - IMHO. Would it be in their best interests to move them away from what is familiar?

I remember so fondly my kids losing their teeth, and all the excitement involved. I cannot imagine how your WAW justifies not being there for her child's great moments. She truly must be taken over by some alien.

It looks like you have all your bases pretty well covered - financially, emotionally (detaching, although you have some depression creeping in, but I think this is normal), and practically. It seems you have your goals thought out, planned how you want to handle things, and that is all you can do for now.

What you need to work on now, is patience. This is one of the most difficult things to accomplish - for me, anyway. I had made my goals, planned everything, detached, GAL, and then I just wanted everything to fall into place immediately. As it turns out, that thing called 'control' got in the way. I could not control when or if my H was going to see the light and reinvest in our M. It took a lot of time, but it happened, and it did so after I had decided to go through with the D, and move on with my life without him. In essence, I had given up all hope of every reconciling or even having a new R with him. Go figure, 'eh!

BTW, I still wonder how much alimony your W would get if she is living with another man, as H and W. So, this may be something to look into. I know you want your family together, but if you get custody of your child, and W is living with OM, and you need to move on, then think about the legal and financial implications, please. Too many LBS'es are so emotionally distraught that they forget to look out for themselves and their children, while the WAS has had the time to let go of M, thought out all the possibilities, before dropping the B.

Take care!