WAW - Worth sticking it out?

[BeingMe]

I must say I agree with Steve. You have to work on yourself and be there for your child/ren. Although, I was successful in having my M back, it wouldn't have mattered because I had found myself again, and I won't be allowing myself to be overshadowed by someone else's choices, no matter what excuses they may have.

I am the type that believes in honour, truth, and unconditional love. I think my H felt he couldn't live up to those ideals. I still believe in those things, but I do realise that no-one is perfect. The thing is to always try and do the right thing. If we can do that then we will have a successful life, IMO. It's hard when our WAS's are choosing to do wrong, but that is our own perception - to them they are doing what they feel is right for them.

Anyway, I just want to reinforce the idea that we should detach, GAL, and take care of ourselves. I am glad you are seeing a good C - it really helps to talk things out. In my sitch, I can already see my H repeating past behaviour, but I will not let it effect me. If it becomes intolerable, I will try and work it out with him, but I know that I will be okay no matter what he chooses. I also always remember that I have a choice about my life too. The WAS may be out of control, and seeming to be taking your choice away from you, but you do have a choice as to how you react to their actions.

Take care.
Deb