Hey deezee, Sorry to meet you here as well,but your in the right place. What i found to work in my sitch was i finally started to validate my W's feelings about her unhappiness and my neglect,Basically i started to agree with her on most things even though i didnt really agree with everything.Hope thats not confusing. I too,was always looking for that "magic bullet".That one thing i could say or do that would change her mind.But they never worked and i just kept hurting myself by getting my expectations up,because i just knew THIS was going to work.It sounded so good in my own head that i thought it would sound good to her as well.Pretty much you have to reside yourself to the fact that it will be HER decision to come back,and there will be times when she does think about it and consider it,but it will be your actions and how you are handling it.My W did not want to come back to an interrogation and deal with the past everyday. Hope this helps DeeJay
