BAD NEWS UPDATE: My husband has filed for divorce. He filed on the day that I saw him. Here I was thinking that the conversation had gone good because he was talking about thinking about coming home a lot but he did not just want to come home and pretend that everything was alright and he was talking about different things that led me to believe that the OW thing was not working, etc. He had told me that he loved me but not the way that I deserved. He had said that he was willing to talk to Arnold (Michelle's associate). All the while he was looking at me and smiling he had filed before he came to the house. I was served yesterday and I did talk to him afterward. He said that he had to wake me up because I would never talk about it. He just did not know what else to do. I spoke with him and then we got off the phone and then he calls me back saying that I just need to put the papers away and forget about it this weekend and go see my grandfather (who just had major surgery but he is doing fine). He says that he does not know but he does not want to be married. He sounded like he was crying on the phone. He did agree to talk to Arnold as I thought that it would be better to have a mediator of sorts when we talked. I spoke with Arnold and for this time he wants to talk to my H alone. He wants to get a feel for what he is thinking and says that my H may say some things to him that he would not say if I was on the phone also. I left my H a message of the time and the phone number to call (it is tomorrow at 8:00.) I will not know if he calls or not. I am just hoping that he does. One thing that my husband says is that I always analyze him and he feels like he is in the chair. I know I do this and Arnold has noticed this about me too. I just want to understand how this man went from loving mw with all his heart and soul and writing me the most romantic notes to not loving me and wanting a divorce. Maybe it is not for me to understand but I feel if I could understand then it would make it easier on me. Anyway, please pray for me as I am just barely hanging in there. I am by no means suicidal so don't worry about that, but I am still at a shock that instead of buying my husband a second wedding anniversary present (it would be on Septmeber 19) that I am going to be contacting lawyers on Monday to see what I need to do. This damn state is no fault so I do not know what will happen there. I will still pray for my marriage until the day that the divorce is final. Please pray for me and wish me well. I appreciate all of your support.