WAW - Worth sticking it out?

[PArob]

Question for others with WAW - do your wives have angry outbursts in reaction to stress or pain?

Yes, yes, and to emphasize even more....yes. Unless there is something completely atypical about your W's angry outbursts, I believe this is fairly common behavior, especially if they are carrying a lot of guilt or emotion.

Yes, defending oneself is natural as well, however, you must try to look at it from a different point of view....she's not attacking you per se, although it may feel like that, but lashing out is much easier than looking inward. This is where validation principles are essential, you must learn to validate her feelings, hear them, but do not react to them. They are not YOUR feelings, but hers. You cannot control them, only your reaction to them.