Sorry for the quick thank you - a little more detail is in order - I am doing just as you said and have found it extremely helpful to me, but perhaps has irritated my wife in the sense that she has a "why now?" approach - like her life is about to be hell, and mine's getting better. I sort of agree with her, for what it's worth. She could have done some things differently, I suppose, but I'm really at fault. The depression thing made me feel like everything was just an insurmountable task. Worse yet, I credit her "wake-up call" to me as the thing that helped shake me out of it. All of this adds up to a tremendous amount of guilt. By the way, you're right about her confusion and guilt, I think. This woman is the best Mom in the world, and I think she's had to decide our son comes in second from now on, just to protect herself: she came "this close", I think, to killing herself last year. Can you see where my guilt comes from? God, I wish I could help her now.
