UPDATE: A letter from a bank came to the house addressed to my H and the OW. I opened it because I was hurt and mad. It appears that they have applied for credit and they were turned down. Obviously it appears that he has made his decision. No wonder that he is not calling like he used to or been coming to the house as often. Ever since he and I got back from our separate vacations and I was not home that first monday back and he was there thinking I would come home for lunch (that was on the 24th of July) and I did not, he has been not calling as often. Only twice that week and only once last week. How do I deal with this? The conversation with him last friday was good and He will be coming home today and if I go home (which I want to because I have not seen him since July 12th) how do I deal with this. Do I show it to him or ignore it like it never came or what? Help, I really need some advice and any support you all can give me.