fivelement,

Sorry for your situation. You will need to also take care of yourself with dealing with the problems that lead up to the A. I am not sure about all the legal stuff, but is filing for a legal separation an option? You both have to learn to forgive each other and turn this over to God. I know that this is rough, but hang in there. I am just over a week away from going to a temporary custody hearing for the kids and house. I too still want my M to work.