I don't find what your wife did was odd at all. Is she in MLC? I think laBeans is right. She really stuck her neck out and withdrawing is a typical response. Your reaction probably had nothing to do with but I think you reacted the best way possible. DO NOT ask. I think she would feel pressured and that would push her further away. Your "gentle appreciation" response was spot on. Enjoy the card and let it lay for now.
