Hi Jenny, Since you posted about the success of your renewed marriage, I have taken to heart all that you have said. I am starting to see some real changes in my h, though since I have been this route with him four times now (the back and forth, etc.) I am quite wary, so I'm not rushing back into the we're one, and a couple, and all that, which is probably helping him too. I am also wary that he is just being nice so that we'll go on holidays together so he can prove that he will make up the last rotten holiday to me, and then when we return he'll leave. But that's my own paranoia and I do manage to keep it to myself. I have completely stopped all OR talks, and all forms of pursuit, including asking how he's feeling, or telling him how I'm feeling (ie hurt, betrayed, beaten down, etc.). I remember hims aying the last time he turned the corner, that he was just sick of all the upheaval and the way he'd hurt me and our family, and just wanted his life to return to normal. I started badgering him about the OW/EA and how he was still connected to her, etc. and travelling with her, and we slid back into the soup. I've just laid right off all that -- it helps having a one year deadline for myself (MOther's Day next year), because it gives me the luxury of being non-reactive for once. I think that is key, not reacting to what they are saying, or doing, to hurt you. I just wanted to thank you for posting your list of dos and don'ts when you did. It helped me alot. I don't know what is going to happen with this marriage, but it seems to be on the right track, and I'd like to keep it there. Any thoughts?
