You did not blow it with the OR if his reaction was as gentle as it was. You didn't blast him, or blame him, you told him your feelings, and kept it somewhat neutral. It sounds like he is feeling guilty and at some level wants to start from scratch and maybe banishment and subsequent punishment is the way he thinks he can get over the guilt. I don't have any advice for that since I am dealing with that a bit with my h. Just keep it slow and easy, and don't get excited about his disclosures and conversaitons with you. Give him his space, and be gentle and loving. You sound like a DB pro -- I wish in retrospect I had kept on the course over the past two years, and maybe we'd be off it by now, but I haven't so I can't do much about that. It's good that you are there for him as a sister/friend, but you should also try to be a bit mysterious. Men like to pursue -- don't be too available as a shoulder to cry on, or you will end up just that -- the friendly shoulder to cry on while he finds his "passion".
