Quote: Thank you Grasshopper, those are good words of advice. I have realized a lot of things over the past week that I need to change not just in our relationship but everyone around me for a long time. Today I've been happy to know that I have been 99.9% of the problem and I need to fix myself but not for her or this will just replay later on in my life. I've been reading DR and all I can say is wow it's some powerful stuff.
Yes, it is. You may not be 99.9% of the problem but 100% of your part of it is, if that makes sense. Realizing that you have personal issues to address is a great place to start.
Quote: I am really worried though on Mothers Day she wants to break the news to her Grand parents and Aunts while we are both there that we are getting seperated. I think I really need to think about that situation and tread very lightly. Any advice would be great!
Well, two things. First, if she wants to tell them, there is nothing you can really do to stop her. Second, if you don't want to tell them, and it's probably best to keep as few people in the loop as possible, then try to talk her into not telling them.
In the end, like I said, you can't really control what she says or does so I wouldn't fight it too much. This is one of those unfortunate byproducts of separation. People will fine out.
