First of all thanks everyone! It's good to know there is support out there.

I get what is being said, I feel hurt and although I think the things I am doing are right they are not. Tonight my wife was actually more chatty than usual about our R all brought on by her.

I do have a lot of issues I'm trying to resolve for myself and I know I have a lot of them... Hence the reason I'm going to start up councling sessions next week.

My W has shown some improvement with me at least she is sharing however I feel guilty because she says she doesn't want to talk to me cause she doesn't want me to feel like there is hope for our R so I tell her I just want to be her friend and be there for her. She has her mind made up she is determined very strong headed when she makes a decision she goes for it with everything in her life (which I love about her but not in this case). I am looking for what the exact problem is with my actions and what she's not getting. I'm also writing down all these things that she tells me so I can be reminded of them everyday and work on changing those.

So many mixed signals though, tonight she also seemed determened to talk about what she is going to be moving out soon and what is hers and mine. We haven't disagreed on anything yet but I find it hard to have those talks. Although we are in a very wierd situation our house needs to get on the market to sell since I am moving away in 6 months. I am still wondering if I never should have took this job (she thinks it's best in our current state) she really acted just 2 weeks ago like she wanted to move, put in a transfer at her job and everything, then said she didn't want to leave family behind. This job is our financial freedom plus some. Money always seemed to be a big issue with us.