Honestly, doesn't your W really already know that it bugs you? For now, ignore the OM (and I'm pretty sure that's what he is, even if your W won't admit it). If and when your W tells you that she is ready to work on your M, then you can address the issue head on.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
