Quote: She wants us to do all kinds of things that are planned. How am I supposed to feel in those situations? She says I'm like her brother. How do I give her space like she says she wants, but then on the other hand she wants to do all kinds of stuff together???
That's the most difficult thing in the world. Honestly, I couldn't do it. Of course, I kicked my W out before I read DR, but I don't think I could have done it anyway. I was too hurt and angry, because my W had already asked for my forgiveness and supposedly wanted to work on her marriage, but she went back to the OM. I needed my own space before I could work on DB.
If you can do it though, that's what you should do. What we mean by giving your W space is emotional space ... not being needy or initiating R talks. If she wants to do stuff with you, that's great and you should encourage that. Be her friend for now.
