I feel for you man. Women can really drive us crazy. It will be hard for you to leave your family but you have 6 months to work things out. My W tells me the same thing, stay for the kids but give me space. She is also having an EA with someone across the country that used to live by us. I wish I had all the answers but sometimes time is the only cure. I am trying to give my W space and it is hard but it does work somewhat as she is less uptite around me. Your W still cares if she is asking you these questions so don't lose faith. I'm leaving my situation in God's hands.