I don't know if you read earlier where I wrote that he is not at the house with me. He is staying with "her" brother and he has stayed at her house at some point. He has not slept at our house since May 22. Although he did have to come to our house the other morning while his car was being worked on and he slept in our bed while I was at work. I wonder how that made him feel.
Anyway, I guess my question is or it just may be a comment is that I cannot prepare his favorite meals if he is not there to enjoy them. Is that what you meant to cook them for him or am I supposed to say that I cooked them for me? Just curious. By the way, there was some flirtation with us yesterday (in person and on the phone). It was mutual on both parts. He called me at work and said "How are you?" and I replied "I'm fine, how are you doing?" and he said "I know that you are FINE, how are you? To which I replied, "like I told you, I am FINE." I know a little cheesy, but it seemed that this is one of the times that he is really starting to lighten up around me.
Jenny and John's wife, I want to thank you for any and all comments or suggestions from you. It really helps to talk to people that have been through it versus family or friends that say I need to just tell him to come home right now and work on things with me. They say it has been long enough and I know it has only been about 2 months now and to me things seem to be improving (at least he is not telling me all the time that he wants to get a divorce).
I do have a question, some times I get so mad thinking about him going out with or without her and not coming home to work on things with me right now. How did you all deal with that anger and not taking it so personal (like well if he loved me more than he likes her than he would be at home with me)?
Also, should I try to totally detach and not let him get a hold of me for a few days or not? Some people have suggested this to let him miss me? I can avoid his calls if he is calling at home because we have caller id, but at work I cannot tell who is calling me and I do need to answer my phone at work if I do not want to get into trouble. I will await your all's opinions before I do anything rash. Thanks again. God bless you both and everyone else out there who is working to save their marriage.
