I am so sorry to hear that you are experiencing such a difficult time w your H. His behavior is maddening,but so typical.
Your H needs to feel like a "hero" to someone again.At one time he was a hero to you.The fact that this woman has MS makes it so obvious in his case.She NEEDS him and it makes him feel important.Many times the OW,is needy and dependent in some way.Many of them are struggling through a divorce or some problem and initially want a "shoulder" to lean on.
This was true in my case.A colleague,w a young child going,through a divorce and "needing" my H for a variety of things flattered his ego.
This type of dynamic occurs because our marriages are injured and needs are not being met.This does not justify infidelity for either party!
Please do NOT personalize his behavior,but see it has a manifestation of his extremely weak ego.
The changes you have made are wonderful and he is noticing.However,this takes a LONG time.Don't give up and don't talk about the OW.
BTW, JW is "right on" w her message.
Take care... Jenny
[This message has been edited by 17baker445 (edited 06-21-2000).]
