Thanks so much for your response. You have helped me in so many ways to get through this. I know by reading your story, I have become more mature and am able to deal with the "stuff". I am beginning to understand what love - true unconditional love - means.
One thing I miscommunicated is that H is not living w OW. H lives in an apt in Chicago; OW lives in Detroit. They appear to see each other every other weekend. (I can tell from the charges on our credit cards.)
I agree that I should not talk to OW. I do want to give H the space and freedom to make his own choices. Part of the letting go has come because I know that he is just running as it is H's pattern. Over the last 9 mos., I haved looked within me and made some great strides. I do realize that unless H looks within and stops the running, our marriage would not change. This is either his second or third relationship in 9 mos. I do hope that he figures this all out, looks within and "gets it". I am hopeful that we will remain together.
Jen, I do have good legal counsel. My therapist is not SO, however she has helped me look at me, I'm sure she thinks that I should just move on and stop trying to hang on to my marriage, but that is her opinion. She is helping me look at me and set some goals, so she has been helpful. I do feel GREAT about me and where I am going. I hope that H and I can grow together, but I do recognize that that might not happen. I have turned that over to God for His assistance.
I will re-read Michelle's book. Any other book suggestions?
Jenny, thanks again for all your support. Hugs, prayers and PMA to you.
