Alex,<BR> Your H's behavior does sound familiar.My H never left home either and he did vacillate in his attitude about me and our marriage.<P> Suggestions:<BR> Don't ever ask him how he "feels",<BR> Get at solution oriented therapist for YOURSELF and start therapy.<BR> Build your OWN life and career in order to increase your self esteem and confidence and to appear sucessful and attractive to your H,as well as yourself.<P> Alex...His behavior does indicate that he loves you and the children,but is conflicted at times.Don't focus on his other relationships.Just work on your relationship w him.Become the interesting exciting woman he first attracted to.Guess what...you'll like yourself better,too.<BR> <BR>Don't under estimate the power of distancing yourself (in a non punitive manner)from H,once you have accomplished all or some of the suggestions above.<P> Jenny<BR>.<P> <p>[This message has been edited by 17baker445 (edited 06-14-2000).]
