My h has never left our home, but in the last two years we have had four periods of his I don't love you anymore. He comes out of them and says he's sorry, he does love me, and the most recent time said I had shown wisdom, patience, he was lucky to have me, yada yada yada. That was six weeks ago. He's back saying he doesn't love me. I can't take much more of this, and he refuses to see a counsellor, refuses totalk about how he feels/felt during any of these periods. I know he had a major EA, and likely still does, I think he may have had other EA/PAs along the way, but I don't know. He has been secretive, and continues to be so. He has snuk around having lunch with his main EA behind my back, when he was in a period of being "in love" with me. My head is in a whirlwind, and I don't know any longer if he will ever snap out of it, or if it is not just mlc, but a long case of never should have been with me, and realizes it, only we have two kids. Does any of this behaviour sound familiar? I really look to yourposts about success, and have been trying to do as you say -- no OR talks, no pushing counselling, being cheerful, supportive, etc. but it's extremely wearing after two years. Please advise!
