You are on the right track.Take it easy and don't do anything to push your situation into a crisis.
When your H talks about how miserable he is or how he should D you,just listen.Be an active listener..nod and rephrase what he has just said repeating his message.Then DROP IT!
For example:H says"Why are you staying w me,we should D" you should reply "You wonder why I am staying in our marriage""I am sorry you are unhappy".
Just let him talk.You listen and keep a calm demeanor.Once in a while rephrase and repeat what he is saying to you.
This technique works extremely well.I used it for several months.I stopped being defensive and argumentative and just listened. Jenny
[This message has been edited by 17baker445 (edited 06-13-2000).]
