I haven't posted to you in a while but I've been reading about your new progress. It reads wonderfully and it couldn't happen to a nicer lady. And enjoy your Mother’s Day!!!!
My life is going well. Andy is a giant bichon at 15+lbs. already and still 3 months shy of 1 yr old. I am very busy w/ work, lots of projects going on here. I want to transition into a sales role so I've had to start discipline myself into saying "no" to social commitments and working on the job hunt. Today has been great because 2 recruiters called me and they are both setting up interviews and internally I'm going to meet w/ the sales director for my region. For me, whether it is dating or job hunting it is always feast or famine.
One of the reasons that I wanted to respond to you is that my divorce will be final sometime next week. The clerks office goofed up a bit and we each have different dates which seems illogical at best but by the end of the week we are both divorced. But I can't emphasize enough the need to detach yourself and not personalize everything. Now I can do it and we are again great friends. We even live on the same street and usually golf once a month together.
The idea of not being so available changes everything and your spouse WILL seek you out. I had a couple of voicemails from my spouse last week because he was dying to tell me some big family news. I know that last year, I would have been the last to know and then he would have tried to pretend that the news really wasn't all that big and played a bunch of other dumb mind games w/ me. I am again his friend and confidante, it is a little bit unorthodox in that we do share dating stories. Somedays I think that my father’s prediction of an eventual reconciliation may come true that is a something to ponder much, much later. But my point is that both Jenny & I are living proof that detaching, not personalizing and living your own life are the keys to success.
