Just wanted you to know that DBing has worked for me and my marriage is better than ever,following a a few very dismal and traumatic years.
My H refused all therapy etc.,so I just went ahead anyway all by myself!Michele's books,this board and a continuing faith and reliance on my Higher Power supported and guided me to a new and improved relationship w my H.
I posted an update on MLC Forum under country girls thread re DBing and MlC. My marriage is healing and I feel loved and desired again.
Unfortunately,my children's schoolwork and emotional health have suffered through this year of uncertainity.They seem to be going through a post traumatic stress reaction.Now that mom and dad are happy,it's OK for them to release their feelings and act out their fears.GG,you know what I mean,I'm sure!We will pull through this w love,support and time.They need to feel "safe" again.
Please don't give up until you are absolutely ready to move on.The fact that most of you have H's who are actively involved w you in one way or another is a good sign! In time they could return and rediscover their feelings for you and for themselves.Most of this is insanity on the part of the mlc spouse and by knowing that and acting accordingly,positive changed can and do occur. My best to all of you...Jenny Baker
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