Sue Ann, Thanks for your wonderful feedback about Db and this great bunch of people here. I am so glad that their feedback to you has kept you sane and kept you on track. It's so hard when you want things a certain way and they aren't that way. But you obviously are doing a tremendously amount of work on yourself and it is showing. YOu're doing a 360!!! That's great. Be patient. YOu are on the road to solution. I know I will see you soon in the forum about making your marriage work. See you there!