Ok, so I should no longer call myself Frustrated. How about just Adam?
I've been here for months now, and I've used the same "name" since my first post mainly because my computer autofilled that field for me.
Thank you all so very much for the well wishes, and for all the support over this trying time. I know this isn't easy for any of us.
In return I want to pass along something someone here said - it went SOOO far in giving me strength and helped me truly believe the intimacy wasn't gone from my wife, only masked in hurt and pain. Use it to help you stay focused, and if the situation and timing is right, share it with your GW/GH.
It said while most WAW and GH say they are "no longer in love" and all feelings of intimacy are gone, it is usually not true and can be seen in other daily examples of our lives. For example, my wife - even though she was still angry and distant, would still change or get dressed in front of me. She would also walk in to go to the bathroom while I was in the shower. Those are TRUE intimate moments that people wouldn't share with anyone other than our spouse. While my wife was saying her feelings were gone, those intimate moments never stopped. And that is how I knew deep inside she still cared. If she started changing in a different room, or locking the bathroom door in the morning, (We are both always in and out of there weekday mornings getting ready for work) then I would have begun doubting myself.
I had never thought about that before, but once that was said, it made perfect sense to me, and it made it so easy for me to believe things could get better. And that made the DBing a snap.
