About 4 months ago my wife dropped that bomb that is all to familiar to us here. "I don't love you anymore". I have been very unhappy and I would have moved out a long time ago, but for the kids.
Since then I have been doing everything to make things right, both with myself and with our marriage. About 3 weeks ago, we had our first real breakthough. She admitted she believed that I was serious about working on our marriage and changing myself. She said she wanted to now work on our marriage as well, but she said she still didn't love me and wasn't sure she ever would again. She said that if things didn't work out and that feeling didn't come out, we would still have to go our separate ways.
Taking that breakthrough, and the fact that I now had a support partner in the woman I loved the DBing became much easier. I've learned so much about myself, my wife, and what she wants in a relationship. I've also learned how to give her most of what she wants.
Then yesterday she came home from work and I gave her a hug hello. She pulled down my head and gave me a very passionate kiss. I started to pull away out of surprise (we've been intimate, and we've kissed during this period, but there was never any passion in it on her part until this point), but she grabbed my head and pulled it back down.
After she let the kiss end (about 30 seconds later) I just looked at her. She said "What, you didn't like that?" I said it was absolutely wonderful, but you don't need to do that for me. She said "I did it for me, I love you." and then gave me a huge hug.
I have dreamed about the day I would hear those words from her again, and I was sure I would break down on the spot. To my surprise, my eyes got wet but I was fine. I guess while I was immesurably happy, I knew that if the "other" words had come from her mouth I would have been fine too.
Instead I told her, I am so sorry for putting her through all that, and I promise I would do everything in my power to make sure it never happened again. I also told her that if she ever felt I was regressing that she should hit me over the head with the proverbial frying pan. And if that didn't work, use the real one.
She said, "Oh, you can bet I will!"
Last night was almost as special to me as our wedding night.
I've got to go now. Someone slept in this morning and she's getting breakfast in bed as soon as the bacon is done.
