OT, yea, I see your point(s) but (sorry NYS...lol) I simply think my sitch is different and can tolerate a little of my wishy-washiness.
That said, I guess I have spent my time today helping and not getting help. I don't really have time to get into it right now but I am starting to get impatient again and wondering what I can do to spark things. I dare not ask YOU that because I still don't have your book yet and thus can't complain that I don't know how to "spark" things. Until I get it, I will refrain from asking you directly for advice.
Anyway, like I said, the short story is that there really is nothing to set boundaries for. The OM SEEMS to be gone for real. There has been NO evidence of her contacting him (not that I've looked, but I didn't used to need to look, it was all over the place) nor any "reminders" of him, i.e. shirts, smelly teddy bears, etc. We are getting along well, even able to tiff now and then and move on afterward, something that we never used to be able to do, mainly because I couldn't let things go. We just still have no intimacy, despite my attempt to initiate. I am not daunted YET, but I would be lying if I said I was not frustrated. I have said this a million times here; I just need SOMETHING, ANYTHING that lets me know she is open to me being romantic towards her, and God knows, I have tried to be even without a "signal" from her but she stops short of being reciprocating.
Now, my mind keeps going back to our last R talk when she said she just needed more time to get back from "WAW" to "W" again, with all that meant. In the same convo, she also said she was not happy with the "status quo", to which I responded that i was not happy with either. I have to point out that I have been acting anything but "status quo" lately, giving her little touches, kisses, hugs, etc. All the things she SAYS she wants from me. I just think she is still not "feeling" it for me and that is worrying me. She does seem to be warming up to me but it's SO slow. I guess I just want more...now.
So here I am, contemplating another R talk. We'll see.
In any event, I am happy, and things ARE going very well as far as I am concerned, I just know I want more and I am willing to do what it takes to get it. I just don't know for sure what that is. I don't think it is any kind of wake up call for W...yet.
