I noticed that you can understand why a shock to the system may be really required to get any real movement out of crazedmom's H. I also see that you are really trying to give a bit of a shock to crazedmom to get her to do the kind of work on herself that she needs to do.
My question: Can you also see how being overprotective of your W, wishy-washy, and afraid to set and enforce any boundaries that would make for the kind of R you want and need are interferring with your own progress, your W's progress, and the progress in your R?
Now, don't get your back up. I think you are doing really well. But this is the kind of thing that you have been rather resistant to hearing, yet it is clear that you see its importance in crazedmom's sitch, so I thought I'd give it another try....
