Yea, I don't pat myself on the back THAT much but in this case, I was really proud of myself because I did THINK about all we have talked about here about being direct and such and that caused me to decide to just BE direct and not ignore how I felt. Then, my validation and NOT letting it get into something like an argument was also a really big thing for me because I used to be the KING of always being right and not letting something go until I proved I was right. I just said my peace and then moved on. Unheard of for me, and my W knows it!
Quote: Ummm, as for guilt, it doesn't really matter if it was a PA or an EA. She has put you through h*ll and she has made choices that didn't work for her and she knows it.
I guess I get that but she doesn't ACT like she is that broken up over what she put me through. I guess by that I mean she doesn't act like she wants to make up for it, or somehow undo it. I guess that's the struggle because on one hand, she's NOT sorry she did this thing because it showed her a lot about herself and her strength, but on the other hand, she hurt someone she loves and possibly damaged something that she thinks she may want to return to. Add to that the general confusion about what she wants, and probably feeling guilty about not KNOWING she wants to be with me, and I suppose you have a guilt $hitstorm. Thanks for that...I wish there was some way I could help her get past that but I think it's probably something she needs to do on her own for the most part.
