I have to admit that I was a little disappointed that she still doesn't KNOW if she wants to stay. She said there are not guarantees in this but that she wants to see how things go. I was at least grateful for her honesty in that.
Oh, and one other VERY important thing she said (which is totally predictable to us around here, but important) is that she has been/is afraid that my changes are not real, that they were just to keep her around and when she does fully invest herself in the R again, I will just go back to being how I was for the first 10 years of our marriage. She said it's hard to understand how someone can just change like that basically overnight. I pointed out that it was not overnight and that some of my changes started before the initial conversation (bombs). She said she knew that. I also said that I know my job is to keep growing and that my changes were personally motivated and permanent, with or without her.
Also, she also told me how she likes the passion I seem to have for my photography. She smiled a lot when talking about how good I am these days and how she loves seeing me so happy doing what I am doing. I confessed that for most of our marriage I was afraid of being happy with my career because somehow I thought it would make her jealous. We both agreed that was really stupid.
Anyway, like I said, there was a LOT said, and I owe a lot of my courage to even talk to her from you.
