Quote: Now, the other thing I am afraid of is an outright denial, her saying that it was for someone else or something. What do I do then? I know in my mind I would be screaming "liar" over and over again but I don't think I want to say that. I guess I would just let it drop at that point and as Rob said, accept that things are not as far along as I thought.
Okay, now your really pulling out the tough questions, lol. Oh boy, see this is where my nature comes into play because my first instict would be show her Exhibit "A" and prove that I know exactly what I'm talking about, etc. etc. etc. Yeah, you can see why I have had trouble with my R.
That being said, i don't think it is necessarily wise to just give up at that point. Remember, you have had a nagging suspicion that it was a PA to begin with and this was a conversation that you wanted to have even before your discovery. Perhpas at that point you should respond with something along the lines of ....even putting aside that receipt, I have had a concern that the R between you and OM may have been physical and then lay out the reasons why that does concern and what your expectations are for getting past that. If she continues to balk, then it is clear that she really hasn't reached the point in the R where she is confortable, but at least you have voiced your concerns. Again, she will hear you and your validation and compassion will go a long way to softening her defenses in the future.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
