Quote: (I do not envy my H having to deal with me when I give every signal in the world that I want to just drop something and be left alone (like telling him that and leaving the room), when what I really want is the opposite, lol.)
Talk about passive/aggressive! LOL What a fine line we all walk. That's a hard line to define for any of us...I've already been thrown out of the room and then been sought out several minutes later for further discussion.
I guess it all boils down to what level of "shutting down" that is employed. I definitely wouldn't follow her about the house trying to get your point across, but then again, as OT stated, coming across in nondemanding, validation affirmations could go a long way to softening her defenses and making her feel comfortable in opening up. Again, it is a fine line...I typically can tell when I cross it with my W when she threatens to spear me with her eyeliner pencil! lol
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
