BTW, Rob, this was the most important thing I read today.
Quote: Being compassionate and loving doesn't mean being docile and passive....I think you can still have your concerns aired here. I guess its your reaction to whatever answers to you may or may not recieve that will determine whether your are being compassionate and loving. If she comes clean, then compassionate and loving may mean your forgiveneess and acceptance to move beyond the sitch. If she doesn't come clean, then being compassionate and loving would mean accepting that your R hasn't progressed to the point that you thought it had, and understanding why it hasn't (whether its because she isn't ready for it yet, etc.) and affording her the space necessary to get to that point.
That is what let me understand what I need to do and a little about how to do it. Thanks again.
