Thanks for stopping by, and to everyone else, sorry I haven't posted in awhile. Been a busy weekend.
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So why didn't your W make the OM use a condom? If you're like me, part of your anger is that she's taking risks with the OM that she wouldn't take with you. Your sex life endured a constraint, while hers with the OM was carefree. It seems to tell you that she loved (or loves) the OM more than she's loved you, and that hurts deeply.
RB, as I have said to OT and others, fully realizing how much denial it sounds like, I can't imagine for a minute that my W did make him use a condom. Her cycle ROUTINELY makes her suspect that she has been pregnant by me over the years even though we were VERY careful.
At this point, all bets are off in terms of what she did or didn't do. As for the assault, that is just me trying to believe that my W is still my W and I know her somewhat. I know that is likely wishful thinking and there are plenty of shocks to come from this yet.
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BTW, I'm definitely in favor of your discussing this with your W, but I think you should save it for the next R talk that she initiates. I think that it will seem accusatory if you bring the topic up and she will point the finger at you for snooping, as you have suggested.
This is the best description of my decision yet, even by me. I MAY wait until the next W initiated R talk if I can keep my emotions in check, or as I have said, "be ok with this" until then. So far, so good.
I am more moody in private but I think pretty good overall in front of her and others.
There was some drama today completely unrelated to the sitch...
Today I went with her and the kids to a b-day pool party. She left, and good thing because all hell broke loose when the kids went in the pool. There were all kinds of adults around but a lot of the kids either don't swim at all or badly and a couple kids needed rescuing in the beginning because they jumped in not realizing they couldn't touch the bottom. I had to pull on out and as I was doing that, S3 must have followed daddy in the pool because after I put the one I pulled out on the side, I he was nowhere to be seen. Finally, after a could frantic seconds, I saw him with a 5 year old being held barely above water. He doesn't swim at all and that was a terrible scare.
Everyone was ok but it really put a perspective on things. This week will be interesting as I try to figure out where I stand in things, and what/if I need to bring up the prego test. As you said RB, I don't think I want to just "bring it up." There will need to be some context and as many have said, I WILL know when and where to do this.
