Thank you, I think when I do approach her with this I WILL do it from a position of concern rather than anger or pain. I just feel like no matter HOW I approach it, she will either deny it or get angry at me out of guilt or whatever and what does that solve.
I know that the fact is that I don't KNOW how she will react but one thing I do know is that however I have approached her with things in the past set her off and I want to do this in a way totally unlike I have before.
That way is to be direct, honest and validating of whatever she says. In the past I have been indirect, passive/aggressive and attacked her for her response to whatever it was I wanted to bring up for discussion. I can't control her reaction, and I don't want to, but I do want to control my approach. I think I can at least give us a better chance to communicate if I can remove the venom from what I say first. I am thinking of how best to do that.
