That is pretty much what I did do. I told her that these things take time and I was in no way angered or let down by the fact that nothing was happening that way and assumed that it would be some time before it did. I told her it was ok. She told me the next day that she felt better talking to me about it. That she still felt bad about it, but it lifted some weight talking about it. I just told her she could tell me anything and if something was bothering me, I would make sure to tell her so we could talk about it. The reason I have at least a bit of hope is a few things she said during the conversation refered to the way I used to be and react. When we were at a "slow" intimate period before, I would become withdrawn and angry. No, not mean or abusive, just quiet. She said after we talked that I was just telling her it was ok and the next day I would be like I used to be. I know the trust will take time to rebuild but as I am sure you know it is an incredible fear that that "feeling" might never come back and I am only prolonging the inevidable. I guess we will see.
