This makes alot of sense to those of us in the direction of where you are at but not quite there yet. I have a question for you. My wife and I, about 3 weeks ago, agreed to take another shot at it and I have been basically living there since. Things have been real good and we seem to be avoiding some of our previous pitfalls. The problem is that saturday we had a talk about intimacy and she said although things have been real good and she is very happy she does not have those feelings for me. She said "it has been great" and that I basically am perfect for her but she doesn't have those feelings and it is stressing her out. She is worried that they will never come back. I had assumed that this would take alot of time and thus haven't given much thought to it. She also inadvertantly said some things that lead me to believe that she has not fully accepted that the changes I made in myself are real, like they haven't soaked in yet. I am worried that she is going to write the whole thing off in her mind or hold back because she is expecting things to come back too soon and thus condemn and chance we have for a happy relationship that I know we can have. She also said she tries not to give me the wrong imperssion by kissing me too passionatly when we kiss, she doesn't want to lead me on. I just feel like she is not going to allow herself to "fall in love" with me again with fear that those feelings will never come back or that she is leading me on. Things have been so great besides this, I know you went through alot of similar situations, any advice or encouragement?
