Thank you all for your support and understanding through all of this mess. I also want to thank my W for giving us the time to reconnect during our difficult times both during and after our seperation.
Last night we had what will be our next to last councilling seesion. After discussing the progress that we both feel that we have made the councillor wanted more information on how we did it. What had made the difference. My W replied that it had been when she could finally except the changes that I had made and when these changes were "felt" she changed.
She said that it would have been to easy to through in the towel last summer and in fact that if it had not been for me standing rock solid and showing complete commitment to our marriage that "we" would have joined the long list of statistics.
The councillor was amazed at how far we have come and suggested that her role now should be a more distant one.
One thing that I believe now that if your wife is WAW it is directly 100% your fault. That until you uncover the reasons that she has felt so alone and disconnected that she must leave or feel attracted to other men, you will never be able to make the changes to show her she matters. By the time she is ready to walkaway she has had and endured much pain. Pain that she has gone through alone.
I will cherrish my W all my days, and I look forward to living old together.
