Joanne,
Good for you! It's got to be a lot better to find this site earlier in the ride, than later. I do wish I had found it before I made my ton of mistakes.

Anyway, I am so very happy for you and I wish you the best in the days to come. It would be really great if your h can give us input from "the other side". Returning spouses are always welcome here.
hugs to you both,
GG