Hey annette...sorry to hear about all the crap you're going through.
Cobra: isn't she enabling him by calling on a leaf cleanup service? I'd invite all the people over to the cookout and let them see the sh!t he hasn't taken care of. Of course, she has to be tolerate the embarrassment of the mess.
But yes, I can see that going ahead and hiring the service is a way to 1)get the job done, 2)not be embarrassed by the appearance and 3)have him suffer the consequences of his inaction ($$).
Annette - it's a balancing of whether you want to continue looking at the undone jobs and be resentful, or to go ahead and get 'er done, and let the chips fall where they may.
Good luck...and it's always free to vent on the SSM Board.
