Thank you for chiming in and lending support to my struggling, but not sinking, ship. I need encouragement from my DB friendss to keep on keepin' on. Thanks again.
Quote: I know I have the stamina to make it through the last round. I'm just feeling really beat up.
Honey trust me when I tell you there will come a day in THIS journey that you will LONG FOR THE DAYS that you just felt "beat up".
Yep. Try feeling like road kill that nobody will scoop up or even kick out of the middle of the road. Then you just keep getting run over again and again and again and again. There ya go. "Beat up" ain't so bad.
Grab a band-aid and keep swingin'. You ain't seen nothin' yet.
I will NOT bow down any more. I will rekindle my dignity by saying no. I sent her an e-mail today telling her that I felt the need to talk with her mother about what her mother allegedly said about me. No response yet, but the last time I told her I was going to let her mother know what words were attributed to her (my MIL) in front of her (my W), my W backed down and said she "added that on" because she was mad. I'm interested what is going to come of this portion of my sitch, because I am NOT going to let this die so easily. Or, is that wrong of me?
The truth hurts, but it's better'n lies nonetheless.
Love ya'.
Thanks for giveing me the perspective to stop whining, even to myself. I know that pity will get me no where and win me no prizes. I must keep my eye on the PRIZE, my marriage and family. Thank you, dear Amy.
Quote: I sent her an e-mail today telling her that I felt the need to talk with her mother about what her mother allegedly said about me. No response yet, but the last time I told her I was going to let her mother know what words were attributed to her (my MIL) in front of her (my W), my W backed down and said she "added that on" because she was mad. I'm interested what is going to come of this portion of my sitch, because I am NOT going to let this die so easily. Or, is that wrong of me?
Would any good come of stirring the pot here?
Could you possibly begin to choose your battles right now and choose NOT to let this be one you fight?
I agree with Amy. You seem to be fighting the "good fight" a lot these days when I think it may be more productive to go Ghandi on her and stop fighting at all.
Absolutely, Amy. I didn't actually intend on speaking with her mother. I was irritated with my W's intentionally hurtful words. My W actually responded to my e-mail and said that her mother talked that smack about me in confidence and that me talking with her mother about it would cause problems for my W breaking her mother's confidence. My W still doesn't know that I did & do NOT intend on talking with her mother about what she supposedly said about me. To top it all off, I have been told by my MIL herself and those close to my MIL that she (my MIL) knows that I am a wonderful father to my children.
Regardless, it is what it is and I am where I am. Also, my W is where she is. All will be fine going forward, but the waters are still VERY choppy and scary in my life. I don't intend on making them more choppy and I do now see that pinning my W and/or MIL down on their lies or ill feelings serves no good purpose. Another cheeseless tunnel. Ugh.
Thanks for chiming in Amy. As usual, you right my ship.
THAT is not doing "more of the same". I will try that starting today. I told her today that although I have agreed to take our children on Sat during her weekend, I am NOT taking them on FRI also. Woring on NOT doing "more of the same." Thank you, GH.
I am working on going Ghandi on her. I have begun using e-mail to communicate about mundane items during the week and it's quite amusing to see the "alternate reality" she is living in right now. No more telling me, "I NEVER said that." It's all there in the e-mail. If I need clarification, I can ask for it by e-mail. It's quite empowering for me to communicate with her this way right now.
The e-mail exhange had me smiling A LOT today. To read wht she is saying is much easier than dealing with all of the accompanying negative emotions. I could have done this ages ago. Less of her bluff and bluster. I'd rather have less communication than lies and intentionally hurtful communication.
