Tonight I went to my W's house to be with and care for our children. Right away she starts barking at me that her mother said that I had ALL of the information for an account that we were due to take over. I had previously told my W that I DO NOT have any of the needed information b/c I faxed the forms to the new owner and he never faxed them back. Again, I told my W this already and asked her to tell her mother that I never received the owner info back and ask for directions based on that fact. My W never did that and was getting pissed at me bacause I kept telling her what I already told her and anwered, "I don't know" to questions I truly did not have an answer for due to NO response from the new owner.
Regardless, my W left and I started making phone calls by calling:
1. 411,
2. the office of the realtor,
3. then scrolling thru their directory to find the actual agent,
4. then talking with the agent (it was forward to her cell)
5. and also getting the buyer's phone # for my W.
I called my W and she came back to get a key and I gave her the info. She thanked me. But again, I am doing for her on her time. Grrr.
My W came back at 10:30 and I told her that I wanted to review the children's weekend schedule with her. Instantly she went into a tirade talking about how she has the children 24/7 and I try to pass myself off as a "great father" and yet I want to limit my time with our children. She also told me she needs more help. What that means, I don't know. I responded that I am a great father and that she says nothing to me except when she calls for help at the last minute and I have usually been there to help out. She tells me that I only want to see our children 4 nights/week. I responded that I have them 2 weeknights EVERY week plus every other weekend. She tells me THAT is only for a couple of hours. I responded, hmmmm...6:00PM to 10:30 or 11:00 or midnight is only a couple of hours? Besides, I told her that I will have my own place within a month and then I will take them overnight on my weeknight evenings. She said it's not my {bleeping} fault that you don't have your place yet. Hindsight again: Mind you, I am not living at home because I was nice enough to move out of my home before it was necessary to do so.
Needless to say, I believe my W had been drinking this evening but, was NOT drunk. The ugly side of my W's personality comes out full force when she drinks; mean, agressive, nasty, selfish, and mean-spirited. But she is NOT an alcoholic, according to her. Riiiiiight!
I read a list of questions to determine if someone is or is not an alcoholic. Answering them for my W, she would have answered YES to at least 3 and most likely 4 of the questions if she answering them truthfully. According to the quiz: "If you answered YES to three or more, you are definitely an alcoholic."
My W thinks she is too smart to let alcohol affect her in a negative way. This from a woman who went to A.A. for 12 years to stay clean and sober. She says she is just out having fun. I am VERY afraid of the denial she lives in. She's definitely her mother's daughter.
Later on in the conversation, my W said her mother told her that I would get interested in dating someone and lose interest in our children. To which I responded again, "well, with family members like that, who needs enemies?" I continued, I told you before that my personal life is not open for discussion, but once again, for the last time, I will tell you that I am not interested in anyone else.
I also told my W, I once told you that our children are my life. I told her, "You said, 'You better get another life!'" She instantly defended herself and said that she never said that. I told her, well then, the thing you never said hurt me very badly.
My W continued on with saying that she needs help with our children. I asked her what does that help look like to you? No answer. I often ask her open-ended questions and she often doesn't answer them. I also told her that I am paying child support for her to have our children 2/3 of the time. I told her last week that when I get my own place, I will be happy to take our children 50% of the time. Again, she couldn't backpedal fast enough. She didn't really want to be with our children less, she just wanted to b*tch at me. If I were to guess, I'd guess that she wants me around to be the house servant who didn't talk, who would do chores, who would care for the children...all without passing judgment, having a feeling or making a comment. Wouldn't we all like to be served like that...?
Well, we ended the conversation with my W asking me to be with our children on Sat night and Sun til 5:00 PM b/c she has a GF's 30th Bday party to attend. Of course she had no backup plan. Any positive thoughts and prayers you all may send my way will be greatly felt and appreciated. I am feeling tired from swimming upstream for my M. Thanks for reading.
