This morning I called my W's cell phone to say good morning and talk to our D, like I always do. My W answered the phone and could clearly see it was ME calling. I was so cheerful and upbeat it made ME sick. I made no mention of her behavior towards me last night. I simply said, "Good morning, how is everybody?" She had me on speakerphone. I then said, "Did everyone get a good nights sleep?" My W was grumbling, but my D was cheerful and made me smile.
I felt great b/c I didn't let her behavior dictate my response. I was calm, cool, and collected. Later in the day, my MIL called me today and asked me what time my W actually made it home. I told her, I'll let her tell you the story. My MIL insisted so I told her. According to my counselor, simply recounting actual events is NOT "throwing her under the bus." I also told my MIL that she was dropped off on the side of the house and came in thru the garage door, so she couldn't have possibly been with a girlfriend. My MIL was silent since it was my MIL who told me that. But, I didn't call her a liar. She was trying to save face for her misbehaving D. I understand that. Of course, it would have been better to just say that she ran into "some people." My MIL also said that she called my W and got no return call. Hmmm....
Well, NM. In a perfect world, our M would have been loving and nurturing, I would have remained faithful, we wouldn't be where we are today. I know it's not a perfect world, but I am working to improve mine and my children's. One of the men I work with told me today, "There are no problems. Only solutions." That made me happy to think about life THAT way.
Well, that's it for now. My wife is calling me trying to make me punctual for her. Strange, she expects something of me that she rarely gave. Oh well, I guess I should call her back now.
Good night. This is my weekend with our children. Taking them to see my family again.
Later in the day, my MIL called me today and asked me what time my W actually made it home. I told her, I'll let her tell you the story. My MIL insisted so I told her. According to my counselor, simply recounting actual events is NOT "throwing her under the bus." I also told my MIL that she was dropped off on the side of the house and came in thru the garage door, so she couldn't have possibly been with a girlfriend. My MIL was silent since it was my MIL who told me that. But, I didn't call her a liar. She was trying to save face for her misbehaving D. I understand that. Of course, it would have been better to just say that she ran into "some people." My MIL also said that she called my W and got no return call. Hmmm.... 
