Quote: Anyway, as far as the being at her beck and call, the first way to get out of that is to GAL. Start taking classes on evenings. Cooking class, photography, kung fu. Have a set workout schedule and DO NOT DEVIATE.
I will Mama. I will be moved into my new place before the end of next month, but my I will start GAL NOW. I have become chrystal clear that doing "more of the same" is the surest way to kiss my M goodbye. Exacly what I DON'T want to do.
Quote: But have firm commitments in place so that she can't "guilt" you into anything. Be kind and understanding and just say that you need more advance notice if she wants you to watch the kids.
You are a wise Mama. Again, I will. The LAST thing I want to do is to backslide. IMO, I have avoided that pretty well during all of this mess.
Quote: And then be sure to talk about what you learned to your kids at least so she will know that you aren't just gallavanting around town when you say you are doing X,Y,Z.
Will do.
Quote: You are going to make it through this.
I know, it's just hard to see that right now.
Quote: I know it is hard but start making plans. You HAVE to GAL in order for you to detach and truly go dim or even dark.
THIS is the hard part, I totally lost myself in my W and children. I know that what attracted her to me was that I AM a strong, confident, independent man. I know that man is still inside of me. I bring him out in every other aspect of my life. I'm working on bringing that man out in my W's presence. It's been happening, slowly.
Quote: Good luck, and I am rooting for you....
Thank you so much kind dear.
Quote: Many hugs.
Thanks again.
Quote: You will come out of this a better stronger person. Trust in that.
