Finishing up my last reply. W showed up home so it was time to go and the darn BB wouldn't let me edit b/c it timed out. So... from the last <pause> I continue.
Quote: Listen, it's harsh and it's a fine line you have to straddle to avoid being called an "arrogant ass" or a "pw shell of a man". You can find it and you CAN straddle it. It is what will make her respect you again. Your very presence has to command it, in humility.
I will work on this. I have spent our M being pitifully codependent. I always did (& do) for my W and she is not capable of expressing her gratitude in a way that I recognize. Something to work on in this mess of a M. But, as I keep saying, there is no better time than the present to work on the solutions for past ills.
I love your way with words. I am so happy you have graced me with your words, wisdom, kindness, frankness, and honesty. I bet you are a joy to know personally.
Quote: Oh! and obviously, leave it ALL at the foot of the cross at the end of the day. Your Redeemer LIVES and cares and wants your marriage restored just as much as you do.
AMEN, Sister! I have been working every day on letting go and letting God. I know that for my M to rebound, reconcile and rebuild it needs God's hand to steer us where we were not able to go on our own.
