Get her something from the kids.....if you think NOT getting her something from yourself would cause a negative reaction, then get a simple card. That's my opinion but I may be wrong so standby for other replies.....

I think you are doing wonderful and I see no need to change horses midstream, you know?

Do what you have been doing unless it becomes obvious it is not working or you have reached a dead end.

Best get familiar with patience. You will need a boatload of it. It is imperitive. Get it through your head now that this will be a long haul and you will be better off. I'm serious. I've been where you are now. You are so happy, feeling like your eyes have been opened for the first time in all your adult life. You want to get on with the business of living now that you have all this newfound knowledge and appreciation. WELL STOP RIGHT THERE because getting INTO these predicaments didn't take us NEAR as long as it will take to get out of them. Notice I did not say "to get ourselves" out of them. No, sir.
Here's why:

Psalm 40:1,2

Let Him guide your steps from here on out.

Jeremiah 29:11

There are lots of wounds that need to heal.
We can not heal them all even though we may have caused them. Some are His to bind and we must trust Him to do that.

You know what the best way to kill time is?
Get back on these boards and start talking to other people. Help them. Tell them your story so they can find the hope that you have found.

Being on these boards keeps me from crackin' up most days!


Amy