Quote: No. She's not. She just THINKS she is. She needs a reality check. This tit for tat stuff is getting you nowhere.
This tit for tat stuff is getting us where her anger wants to take us, straight to a D.
Quote: Listen, you stumbled, you fell, you got dirty. You learned your lesson. You are worthy of respect and consideration and two wrongs never make a right.
Yes I am. Thank you.
Quote: She has handled this with a pompous attitude from the get go.
I have let her behavior toward me slide because I felt like I deserved her anger and disrespect. I know it has gone on long enought for me. I will stand up for myself when she wrongs me. I will say what I mean without being mean.
Listening to your story with your H leaves me with clear insight on how my M needs to be reconciled. My M will never be reconciled with my W's continued disrespectful treatment of me, which is why I made the decision on TH evening to no longer play her game her way. I am deserving of respect. Yes I did screw up bad, but I am doing everything humanly possible to make amends for all of the hurt I have caused. I especially appreciate your path you spelled out about only listenting to my S's anger if it was leading to healing. I pray my W does not let our M get to a D. I desperately want to avoid being a statistic.
I feel like I am drowning in my pain. However, I was directed to a book, Codependent No More and I saw my R in there in numerous stories. I can hardly wait to get through the book to better understand the turbulent dynamics of my R.
Anyway, my W is beating me to a pulp emotionally, but she will not get me to stop loving her and give up on our marriage. I just need to find a better, more fulfilling, upbeat way to fight the good fight.
