SophieL, I cannot thank you enought for giving a voice to my W that may ring true for her and her D talk.
Quote: I constantly threatened my H that I was leaving; but I never meant it. I wanted my H to 'see' me. I often felt invisible in my marriage.
I didn't have the insight to even consider that possibility until you brought it to my attention. As my old neighbor used to say, "No matter how thinly you slice a piece of bread, there are always TWO sides."
Quote: And here is where I also want to apologize if my first post came off as too harsh.
No need. And, I don't attack my wife. I know I hurt her terribly and I own up to that. She has every right to act the way that she is (though I wish she wasn't) and I do my best to not be angry with her right now. It's a struggle, but saving my M and preserving my family is worth the struggle.
Quote: Anyways, have you made some goals for yourself. What are the areas you are working on?
Yes, I have made goals for myself to become again, what I once was, a complete person away from my S. I seem to have lost the ability to nurture myself. Additionally, I have put off learning the guitar too long. I am also joining a gym next week and have been regularly attending church with our children. One of my goals is to begin socializing with men from the church socially to hold myself accountable for honorable and correct behavior all the time. I have been diligently working to be more patient, less judgemental, more outgoing, less pessimistic, hopeful, despite all the naysayers around me.... And of course, reading Michelle's books. 5 Languages of Love will be next up. I have a lot of clay to mold myself into a sculpture worthy of display.
Any positive thoughts and energy you can spare, please send my way for me and my family. Thank you.
