Quote: My threat to leave were the only times I really had his attention. Maybe your wife's threats to leave are a sympton of something you need to work on or it may be an issue she needs to deal with.
Sophie,
I am REALLY glad you posted this because I think it is a great point and if I look at HH's sitch from THAT angle, then it is a whole different story.
HH, does what Sophie says ring true? Could your W have been trying to get your attention instead of control you?
HH, I am not saying I know what is going on in your W's head, nor is Sophie, but I do think it may be important to consider this angle, if only to give yourself something more hopeful to think about. I say hopeful because IF your W was trying to get your attention, then this is a really good thing to understand because it gives you a clue as to her love language(s) and something you may need to address farther down the line.
